This Real Life: 5 Key Steps Towards Rebuilding A Broken Relationship

We all encounter relationships that are harder to navigate than others. Occasionally, we suffer from ups and downs in all our relationships. From friendships to family to our significant others. We are constantly trying to get along with everyone. More often than not this people pleaser attempt fails miserably. In its wake we are left with sadness and anger. In fact, we may find ourselves confronted with a strained relationship that we desperately want to fix. And sometimes, the relationship is worth fixing, other times maybe it’s not. However, when a broken relationship involves family or longtime friends, we may want to consider moving forward by trying to mend the relationship. Here are just a few suggestions towards helping you fix any broken or strained relationships in your own life.

1. Communication is key.

It doesn’t matter what led to your broken relationship. All that matters moving forward is that you take the time to listen, truly listen to the other person. Try to take yourself out of the argument that led you to this strained relationship. In fact, when you are able to fully step back and really listen to what the other person is saying you put the other persons feelings before your own. In turn, you acknowledge their feelings toward the situation and can begin to move forward.

2. Practice forgiveness.

The best f-word: forgiveness. Although it’s much harder to actually practice, it can completely change all of your relationships, specifically your strained or broken ones. In fact, practicing forgiveness on a regular basis can greatly impact your mood in positive ways. In order to forgive another person, you have to really allow yourself to feel your emotions so that you can begin to move past any hurt or pain that another person may have caused you. Once you are able to move past the hurt and pain your relationship can begin to rebuild anew.

3. Keep it honest.

When mending any relationship it’s crucial for you and the other person involved to continue to be honest with one another. The only way you will ever be able to move forward is by being brutally honest with each other. It may not be easy. In fact, it may be incredibly difficult. But once you get past your fears of showing up authentically as yourself, flaws and all, you can start to rebuild the relationship again. This new relationship will be even sweeter than before, all because you were real, true, and honest.

4. Take responsibility for your role.

Both parties involved need to take responsibility for their part in causing the relationship to strain or break. Once you can acknowledge your own actions and role in the relationship getting to the state that it’s in, you can begin to see the relationship for what it is. A relationship that now deserves some extra love and attention. In fact, once you begin to look at the relationship from a new perspective you can move forward and let go of any excuses or explanations that you’ve been holding onto.

5. Practice patience.

The cliche is true: patience really is a virtue. Whenever you embark on a journey of fixing a broken relationship, you have to understand that it won’t be fixed overnight. It will require plenty of patience and time to restore a broken relationship. Trust must be rebuilt. In fact, giving people the time they need to rebuild trust is one of the only ways to fully heal a broken relationship. Although it is a difficult process, mending a broken relationship is a critical aspect of your well-being and overall happiness.

Putting forth the effort to fix a broken or strained relationship allows us to grow as individuals. In fact, we develop compassion and empathy as we begin to heal old relationships. So go forth and tackle those difficult relationships and learn some more about yourself in the process.

As always, I would love to hear from all of you. Have you ever mended a broken relationship, whether it was with a family member or friend or even a significant other? Let’s continue this conversation in the comments below. I love hearing all the comments and feedback!


A 20-something girl on a journey to find herself with hopes of helping others feel their feelings.