This failed life: how failing out of law school made me a better person

“Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again”-Richard Branson

Failing is often seen as a negative experience. One we try to avoid at all costs. But when we avoid failing we halt our own growth. It is from failure that greatness occurs. It’s when we fail that revelations occur. It’s from our failures that we learn how to appreciate the successes that much more. In essence, we do not allow ourselves to take our successes for granted because we had struggles to overcome in order to reach any success.

Everyone has a low-point. That place where you feel like there is absolutely no way out. You may be depressed and sad and confused. Most millennials, like myself, come to this point post-college. Entering the real world after being in the college bubble can come as a shock to most 20-somethings. I was so terrified of leaving the college bubble that I applied to law school during my senior year of college. And by some magical universal force, I was accepted. So of course I went. Did I actually want to be a lawyer? I wasn’t quite sure, I’d convinced myself I did.

And so began my journey. After 2 years of struggling to keep my gpa high enough to keep me in school, I couldn’t do it. The school, politely and quite directly told me I couldn’t come back. At the time I had no idea what I was going to do. I had a bachelors degree in political science. What the hell could I do with that? I really struggled for the next few months trying to figure out a plan for my life. Or at least the next step. And it was during this time that I realized how fortunate I was that I was kicked out of law school. Eventually, I got happier, and was able to turn a seemingly negative situation into a positive. And once I did that, the universe responded in miraculous ways.

Here are just a few of the ways that getting kicked out of law school was the best thing that could have ever happened to me, and how failure in general is necessary for our growth.

1. You become stronger
Oh how strong I became. My character was strengthened. I developed a resiliency I didn’t know I had. We as humans have the ability to bounce back quite easily, once we allow ourselves to get back up. Each time you try again and again, your resolve grows making you stronger and tougher as an individual. And that my friend, is a wonderful characteristic to have. It serves you the next time you fail. You’ll be able to get back up even quicker.

2. You learn
The saying “you learn from your mistakes”, is a cliche because it’s true. Terribly, terribly, true. When you fail you develop lasting memories. I can remember all my failures. Why? Because, without being dramatic, they were traumatic, in their respective way. There’s a reason we can become depressed and extremely sad after a failure, it’s because it has affected us at our core. And because of that emotional experience, we simply hold onto that memory because of how life altering it is. But with failure comes the learning. How can I do it better? What can I do to learn from this experience? These thoughts come to us in those moments when we don’t want to feel sad. We see that glimmer of hope and we reach for it. Once we do that, we allow ourselves to grow and learn from the perceived failure.

3. We open ourselves up to better opportunities
When I got kicked out of law school I really struggled to figure out what I was going to do with my life. I got a temp job at a law firm, and hated it. I then thought about going back to school for social work. And then, miraculously I found writing. During that down period I started journaling. And with that came a love and passion I hadn’t known existed before. Words made me smile. Expressing myself on paper was not only therapeutic but also I saw how my writing could be shared with others. It was a way for me to create connections. And so with that I began a blog. And now, as a contributor for Elite Daily and blogger, I am expressing myself and sharing stories with the world hoping that others can relate to my experiences.

I know that if it wasn’t for me getting kicked out of law school I would have never found this passion of mine. The universe works in very mysterious ways. It will often take failure for the universe to guide you towards opportunities you would have never imagined for yourself.

Without failure, we become stuck. Life is meant to have its ups and it’s downs. It’s when we are able to feel and experience those downs, that the ups are even more special. They actually matter. And the beautiful universe is always there teaching us various lessons for our benefit. So that we can grow and learn and become the best version of ourselves. My favorite motivational speaker Gabrielle Bernstein has a quote that I always try to remember when I start feeling like things aren’t going the way I’d like.

“The universe has your back”- Gabrielle Bernstein

And it’s true. It always does. So trust it.

Now I’d love to hear from all of you. Have you experienced a seeming failure only to see it as a blessing in disguise? Please share in the comments below. Let’s continue this conversation. If you haven’t already, please subscribe to the blog to get instant notifications straight to your inbox every week! I love hearing all your feedback and comments.

Have a great week!

 

Zoya

A 20-something girl on a journey to find herself with hopes of helping others feel their feelings.