This body-love life: body image blues

As the seasons change, and summer falls upon us, it’s almost inevitable that many of us struggle to handle our body image issues.

Unfortunately, I have fallen into the summer body-bashing trap. Oftentimes we, as a society spend a lot of our time worrying about what we are eating, what our bodies look like. We lose precious moments with those that we love when we do so. I have spent many Summer’s avoiding certain activities because I was severely self-conscious about the way I looked.

After years of therapy, and growth, I have come to a more comfortable place with my own body. There is a great quote that says “we are given the lessons we need to learn”. And loving my body is a challange that I continue to struggle with. But I have some solutions to beating body image blues that I’d like to share with all of you, so maybe we can try and change the way we view what’s important in our lives and stop body shaming once and for all.

1. Focus on treating yourself in a smart way.

Summer is a time when the days are long, the weather is gorgeous, most people go to the beach and you spend time with those you love. So why not focus on that. Take time to be thankful for all the things your body can do. Summer is the perfect time to head outside, walk your dog, ride a bike, go for a walk. Just take an extra few moments to be kind to yourself. Make sure you appreciate all the beauty surrounding you.

2. Don’t let anyone else shame you for what you like.

As humans, but this speaks mostly to women, we need to support one another’s choices. You do you. It’s vital to remember that we all have our own likes and dislikes. And it’s because of our uniqueness that we get to shine the brightest. So please, next time you are about to judge someone based on their appearance, think about how you would feel if the roles were reversed.

3. You’re wonderful and don’t you forget it.

A huge part of eating disorders is that little voice in your head saying you are worthless, no one loves you, and you deserve nothing. I hope you know that voice is dumb, and that each and every one of you has purpose and talent. You are beacons of light to others. Someone adores you. I promise. I love writing, it is extremely therapeutic. So whenever I feel like that little voice is taking over, I turn to my journal. Just writing down my thoughts allows me to see how silly they really are. It reminds me of all my greatness. Whatever you love to do that makes your soul smile and light up, do it. Use that gift that is inside you and take a little extra time to choose happiness.

Now, is everything always going to be bright and rosy? No. We will most likely all have good days and bad days. But the key I want to highlight is that we need to try and have more good days than bad ones. I hope these three tips help in some way for you to take control of your feelings and choose to be happy, no matter what you look like. So this summer, join me in challenging our misconceptions about how we should look, and instead let’s all just appreciate all the beautiful bodies out there. Better yet, let’s focus on one another’s talents and try focus less on what people look like.

Now, I’d love to hear from all of you. Do any of you struggle with body image issues when summer rolls around and bathing suit season is in full bloom? How do you handle the nasty little body shaming voices in your head? If you feel comfortable, please share in the comments below. I know this can be a touchy subject for many, even I had a tough time writing this. But in the end, I know that this is an important subject that I thought might serve some of you. As always, I love hearing all of your comments and feedback. Please, if you haven’t already, subscribe to the blog to get instant updates every week with a new post straight to your inbox.

Have a great week everyone!

Zoya

A 20-something girl on a journey to find herself with hopes of helping others feel their feelings.