This ambitiously lazy life: the struggle of being an ambitiously lazy person

So many dreams, so little motivation. 

We’ve all been taught that there are two different categories of people. There are the ambitious people who do everything and anything it takes to make their way to the top. And then there are people who do what they need to do to get by, but that extra effort is way too much to even think about.

But, what about a person, like me, who falls into a third, oxymoronic category. The ambitiously lazy person. You know, the type of people whowould have all their shit together if they just put forth a little more effort.

We occasionally push ourselves, but a majority of our lives are lived not bothering to even plug in our cell phone.

Most ambitiously lazy people are somewhere in their 20s, because while we’re kind of an adult, we adore pretending our responsibilities don’t apply to us. We continue to think that we have all the time in the world to be ambitious. So why not be a little lazy?

We are a special breed of people, but a pretty damn awesome one. Of course, there are always exceptions, and I applaud you for being either extremely ambitious or extremely lazy.

As an ambitiously lazy person sitting between making plans and watching Netflix, I know how real the struggle is for us hybrids. So as we tell ourselves that there is always next weekend to find a date, here are a few of the real struggles that only ambitiously lazy people will understand.

1. We have some brilliant ideas, but none of them work out.

Putting in effort is just too much work for us. We can’t be bothered to actually make our ideas come to fruition. We just don’t want to try that hard. We really struggle with motivating ourselves.

But knowing that we lack motivation is actually a benefit for those of us that actually give a damn about our lives. We can hold ourselves accountable by asking someone who is extremely ambitious to call us on our shit and give us a swift kick in the ass to get us to do something. We need all the encouragement we can get.

When I first began blogging and writing I motivated myself by making it more important than it really was. I scheduled time to write and treated it more like a job than a hobby.

2. We lack the ability to make vacation plans.

The only way we ever go on a vacation is if we have someone in our lives who makes our vacation plans come to life for us.

It took me seven years to finally make plans to visit my grandparents in New York when I live in Baltimore. I would just constantly make up excuses from work responsibilities to lack of money. There was always something. But guess what, when I got those bus tickets and started researching where I wanted to go while in the Big Apple, I got myself super excited. And I ended up having a blast. I felt like a real adult.

No matter our excuses, if we are willing to listen a little more closely to the ambitious part of ourselves, we can experience some pretty epic stuff.

3. Our Pinterest boards are filled with some awesome interior design ideas that we will never get to.

Ambitiously lazy people are the kings and queens of Pinterest. We love to look at all the beautiful home decor ideas, wedding ideas, DIY ideas, but we lack the ambition or motivation to actually go back, read and do what is required. Pinterest really is just a catalog of ideas that we put away in a storage box and never get to.

4. We procrastinate things we actually want to do.

We channel our inner April from Parks and Rec and don’t want to do things. We want to not do things.

Whether we want to go back to school, try a new hobby, start a new project or just bake some brownies, we constantly put things off. We will reschedule plans with friends we actually want to see multiple times until eventually our friends just give up on trying to see us. Which leads me to..

5. The people who are in our lives must really love us.

We are difficult people to get along with. We will talk a big game about our ideas and ambitions. But then we never follow-through. We are the people who flake on dinner dates regularly because watching Netflix takes a lot less effort than getting all dressed up to go out and eat. We can eat and watch Netflix in the comfort of our sweats.

But somehow we still have people in our lives that understand our sometimes illogical and irrational ways. We want a relationship so we hop on Tinder and Bumble, but then never follow through with actually setting a date with any potential matches.

Our friends and family are always just a text away knowing that we probably won’t show up to the bar, but will be happy to text and stop them from making poor decisions.

As human beings, we love categories. And knowing there is a third category of people might just make you realize that you aren’t wrong for your thoughts and actions. It’s okay to be ambitiously lazy because the thing is, we have some ambition in us, and when we find that motivation within us, we blossom. We also don’t run the risk of burning out because our laziness gives us balance. So in a way, being an ambitiously lazy person is the perfect balance. While some may see us as oxymorons and our loved ones may think we are irrational sometimes, we can prove them all wrong by coming up with that great idea and having someone else do the hard work for us.

So here’s to all the ambitiously lazy people out there.

Now I would really love to hear from all of you. Are there any ambitiously lazy people who would like to share some of the struggles you face or if you connect with any of the struggles listed? As always I love hearing all your comments and feedback. Let’s continue the conversation.


A 20-something girl on a journey to find herself with hopes of helping others feel their feelings.