This adult life: What I Learned About Adulting From My Mom


Adulting made easier by my mom.

Adulting is a word that has infiltrated our collective consciousness, being used to described the process of growing up. Considering that my mom is my best friend, the stories that she’s shared with me about her past have taught me that it’s okay to fail, and to accept myself exactly as I am. More than that, she has taught me a great deal about growing up, reassuring me that although the struggle may be very real right now, I am strong enough to overcome it and make it to the other side.

So if you, like me, share a similar bond with your mom, here are just a few of the many things we can learm about adulting from our moms.

1. It’s okay to not feel your age.

Life experiences shape who we are, it’s a fact. And certain experiences make us grow up faster than others. This doesn’t make your journey more or less than someone else’s. You may have had to become independent at age 18 because you had to support yourself, or you lost a parent and had to become the man or woman of the house at a young age. Or maybe you had parental support up through your late 20s and are just now taking on new responsibilities.

Whatever experience you have had, you may end up feeling older or younger than you actually are. And that’s okay. There is no shame in your personal life experience because it has shaped you into the person you were always meant to be. So enjoy the journey, no matter what has happened.

2. Learn from your mistakes.

Although we can’t fix our past mistakes, we can always learn from them. My mom always reminds me that it’s okay if I fail or stumble in life, as long as I learn my lesson and move forward. Knowing that my mom always supports me in my pursuits allows me to fall and get back up. Her support is what pushes me to be the best version of myself.

And yet sometimes it’s hard to immediately learn from our mistakes. Oftentimes, we have to make the same exact mistakes more than once, or twice, or even three times, to finally learn the lesson. The universe is brilliant that way. It will continue to bring the exact situations and experiences we need to learn from, always giving us the opportunity to act differently until we finally get it.

3. Life is too short, so always choose happiness.

Although I was an only child and therefore quite spoiled in comparison to a lot of my friends, my mom always highlighted the fact that her love was unconditional. She always reminds me that life is only lived once, so why not be able to give and share experiences now. My mom constantly reinforces the importance of family, and how vital spending time with family is to our happiness.

Growing up, I was fortunate to be able to travel at least once a year with my parents on vacations. Whether we were in Disney World or the local beach, my mom made sure that we always participated in activities as a family. This instilled in me a sense of harmony and peace that I carry with me every single day. It’s led me to push myself out of my comfort zone and accept that sometimes life doesn’t always go the way I planned, and to be able to handle those situations with grace and maturity, rather than a child.

My beautiful mother has taught me how to be the woman that I am today, and for that I will always be eternally grateful. Our mothers birthed us into this world hoping for the best, all the while, teaching us how to successfully grow up and become real adults.

Now I would love to hear from all of you. What lessons have you learned from your mothers about growing up? As always I love hearing from all of you. Please share any and all comments below.


A 20-something girl on a journey to find herself with hopes of helping others feel their feelings.

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