Taking a risk is terrifying. Change makes most of us uncomfortable. But staying stuck, and in the same place we were 10 years ago doesn’t allow us to grow as people. How can we learn anything about ourselves if we don’t push ourselves out of our comfort zones?
This shows up best in our careers. For instance, we may be in a career that makes us unhappy and we want to go into a different career that is more aligned with our passions? Or maybe we have been working and working so hard and haven’t had any time to ourselves that we need to take a step back and get away from our job, pack our bags and move to another city.
Taking a risk requires change. There is no risk that comes with ease. It requires mental preparation. Some people can face change easily. To those people I say, please share your secrets with me. I, on the other hand, struggle with change. I am a huge fan of a routine. But the universe will send signals to you that you may not want to see, pushing you to change, to take that risk.
It all comes down to taking a leap of faith. To release any attachment to our desired outcome. So you might be asking yourself, “okay, but my own fear and doubt is holding me back from taking that leap, how can I overcome that”? That’s exactly what I am here to share with you.
1. Overcoming the “I can’t even” issue.
When things get hard, I am the queen of the overused phrase “I can’t even”. We have become a generation of people who struggle to push ourselves to do things that make us feel uncomfortable. We can spend many sleepless nights battling our own fears. These fears stop us from making any decisions, they paralyze us into staying with the status quo. We fear our past mistakes and worry our future is bleak.
But imagine, taking a step back and really looking at where your life is going if you stay on the same exact path you are going in. Does it feel good? Or does it make you feel ill? If you can’t see a future path of happiness for yourself in your current situation, what would be a worse situation? If you take a risk, it usually happens as a result of how we feel in our current state, which is more likely than not a sad image.
As cliche as it may sound, as soon as you realize that the only thing holding you back is yourself, that you simply have to do what is best for you, regardless of what some people may think- you are able to finally take some ownership of your own life and start to take the first step towards your dreams.
2. The no money mindset.
The ugly money monster seems to constantly be hiding in our closets, waiting for us to screw up our finances. This nasty monster reminds us that we have to survive and live with money. How else are we supposed to live? For most of us, we don’t have that much saved up, we have student loan debt, rent,utitilities, food, and social life expenses to take into consideration. Taking a big risk may mean a change in our financial stability.
But basing our decisions on a fear of financial stability seems practical. It makes us feel more adult. And yet, in the process we are letting our dreams slip away. There will never be a right time to make a change. We will always find an excuse or reason for staying the same.
With a little creativity and initiative we can find some work out there. Starbucks is always hiring. There are freelance positions out there. Money may be a contributing factor to our obstacle, but it should never be the one thing holding us back in our journey towards living a life that is beyond our wildest dreams.
3. Knowing disappointment is inevitable.
The road towards our dreams is never easy. If it was there would no need to write this. We’d all be living our dreams. But the truth is, our dreams are dreams for a reason. They require hard work, effort, and maybe a little bit of luck if we’re honest. Accepting that it won’t be easy is half the battle to taking that leap of faith.
If you, like me, left your hometown at 18 to go to college, then you know what a big change feels like. For me, I went from being very close to a big city to the middle of nowhere, in the country. It was a transition. I had to share a living space, bedroom and tv for the first time in my life. I was terrified. But I did it. But to say it was a smooth transition would be a lie. There were many nights spent alone and feeling sad that I wasn’t as social as everyone else around me seemed to be. Dealing with anxiety and various social situations that made me uncomfortable, I learned a lot about myself. I learned that I am an introvert. That it’s okay to not want to get blackout drunk every night. But all this learning came my senior year. It took a solid 4 years for me to really feel comfortable with who I was, what I liked and didn’t like.
More recently, trying to change careers, I’ve sent numerous resumes out and many, if not most come back basically saying “thanks, but no thanks”. But all of this trying has taught me some more about myself. It’s showed me my resilience. I’ve learned that I’m creative (who knew?). But I’ve seen my passion challenged, pushed, and it’s allowed me hone in on what it is that I want to pursue right now, at this very moment. I’ve learned what I don’t like. And staying in a place that makes me unhappy isn’t how I want to live. That’s when I had the epiphany to take a risk and change careers.
Taking a risk and making a change is scary. It’s hard. It will involve disappointment, heartbreak and some other not terribly pleasant feelings. But in the end, we only regret the chances we never took. So if you like me, are terrified of change, question your abilities, and simply live your life with fear holding you back, then please, join me in pushing yourself to take that leap of faith and go for what makes your soul happy. So that the universe can bring situations and people into your life so that you can live a life beyond your wildest dreams.
Now, I’d love to hear from all of you. Have you ever experienced the moments before taking a big risk in your life? How did you handle all the fear? Please share any and all comments and feedback below, I love reading all your comments.